Sermon:
Psalm 8; Mark 10:2-12
So far I may have been sounding as thought I wanted to say of God's creation: ‘Whatever is, is good'. But that's hard to maintain with the universe we know: just look at this week's news, with long-ago rape and current child abuse competing with typhoons and tsunamis for our horrified attention. Our Gospel reading this morning seems to be falling into dismal line, too. In Matthew, Mark and Luke Jesus is recorded as being against divorce and remarriage, but here in Mark's Gospel, the earliest, we have Jesus' most apparently uncompromising condemnation of those who remarry after a first marriage breaks down. Here, as in Psalm 8, I am forced to ask myself: what does this mean? But here, unlike Psalm 8, there are evidently consequences arising from how we respond to this difficult text, consequences with an immediate bearing on people's lives.
In a way, I'm working backwards here from what is to what should be. As you will know, unlike some other churches, our denomination is generally happy to celebrate the remarriage of people who have gone through divorce. Yet like the other churches, we too have Mark's Gospel before us.
So what has made us able to take this step?
Partly it's because unlike Roman Catholic or Anglican churches, we don't see marriage as one of the sacraments, something like baptism or communion that tells us directly about God. We see it as a partnership between people, an agreement sealing a relationship. And sadly, like the relationship between people and God, this agreement sometimes breaks down.
If a previous marriage has broken down, we ask people contemplating remarriage to think and pray very carefully over what went wrong last time, so that mistakes are not repeated. But we also believe that mistakes can be forgiven, that God offers us a new start in life. And this is something we have learned from the Gospel stories about Jesus, who called tax collectors away from collaboration with the occupying power into God's kingdom, who healed paralysis and forgave sins, who brought lepers back into community. Where there is damage, according to those stories, there is always an opportunity for God's healing and transformation.
So what can we make of this story, seemingly so rule-bound and condemnatory? Can this really be Jesus talking?
That's an interesting question. For if we take the cameo of Jesus in the house with his disciples, teaching them directly about the impossibility of remarriage without adultery, a strange anomaly arises. Jesus' private teaching runs: if a man divorces his wife and marries again, he commits adultery. And likewise, if a woman... but hold on a moment. In the Jewish society of that time, and indeed in Orthodox Judaism today, while a man could divorce his wife, a woman could not divorce her husband. In Roman law, however, either party could initiate divorce proceedings. So this saying must have been either originated or updated for the benefit of Christians from a Gentile background. Do you remember, a while ago, my suggesting that while Jesus gave us the parable of the sower itself, it may well have been others in the early church who added the longer explanation of what sort of person each sort of soil represented? In this case too, it seems quite possible that while Jesus did indeed debate divorce with the Pharisees, and did underline the crucial importance of the marriage bond as two people being made into one by God, it was his followers who later added a rider forbidding remarriage to divorcees. And as we descendants of Calvin know, it's all too easy to elaborate inspiration into a system more rigid than anything its originator had in mind.
So what may all this have to do with those of us who have not experienced divorce? There seem to be two different attitudes to marriage here, attitudes which may be seen in wider contexts too. Firstly, Jesus' recognition of all that is good in marriage: of the God-given support and partnership which can be found in a loving relationship of mutuality between two people, which spreads wider than itself to bless children and friends and society in general. Such a relationship does not come instantly; it arises through years of vulnerability, of learning, if sometimes through gritted teeth, to appreciate the other person with all their gifts and enthusiasms. I know I'm speaking to many experts in this congregation alone. But sadly, such a quality of relationship does not arise from every wedding day, for some choose to keep up the defence of a hard heart. And that is why the possibility of divorce is still necessary.
Secondly, though, there is the legalistic attitude that, rather than focussing on the ideal, puts unbearably heavy penalties on failure.
We have been asked today to mark an international day of prayer about climate change, with the Copenhagen UN Summit coming up in November, when nations must decide what commitments they can make in order to minimise global warming. Often the environmentalist take on our planetary future has taken the second, legalistic approach I've just described: activists try to frighten us into living greener lives, for fear of environmental catastrophes to come. And just as in those churches which prohibit divorce altogether, people find ways to ignore the ruling or to get around it, ways which do not promote the desired end, but just leave us feeling guilty and furtive. How might it be if, instead, we followed Jesus in focussing our attention on the good things God has given us in our beautiful planet; if we decided that for our own sake and that of future generations it was worth looking again at those aspects of our relationship with it, such as our dependence on the motor car and on fossil fuels, that are clearly breaking down?
If you think I'm being too idealistic, think again about what we are about to do together. We are about to remember Jesus' many meals with outsiders before his death, his last meal before dying, echoing God's rescue of slaves, and his joyful breaking of bread with friends after God raised him to new life. Our faith is built on the transformation of slavery to freedom, of woundedness to healing, of death to life. We will eat and drink in hope of our own transformation from despair to hope, from sorrow to joy; and that of the whole world, including its horrendous headlines. In heaven, I will hear a toddler's bellow and smile - if there is any 6am in heaven, which I wouldn't like to surmise. In heaven, we will recognise and love everything that gives God praise, and all our tears and pain will be a thing of the past. But now is the time to practise that appreciation of one another and of our beautiful planet; now is the time to practise being God's friends, even if our attempts might make anyone but a proud parent wince. And let me make it clear, I'm not talking about the choir!